Your love is special.
Weddings are events filled with tradition. These days, however, people are less tied to some of the traditional features of weddings and prefer more unique elements. Vows are one very personal thing couples enjoy taking creative control over.
Oftentimes, vows contain some religious aspects to them as well, but that doesn't work for people who don't identify with a religion or don't wish to involve it in their ceremony. Some couples may just want to recite vows that don't follow the same formula.
It can, however, be an overwhelming process to try and come up with your own vows, at least that's what I've seen in moves and TV. We've all seen the Friends episode where Monica and Chandler struggle to write their own vows. There are many directions someone can go with wedding vows. Let's take a look at a few ideas to get the ball rolling!
Incorporate Song Lyrics
It's pretty common for couples to have a special song. It may have been playing the night you first met or even just be something the two of you have a mutual appreciation of. Whatever the significance may be, a song is a fun way to add a little something extra to your wedding vows. Sure, it may be corny, but that's what weddings are all about!
Add Humor
Weddings don't have to be completely serious! Humor is actually a wonderful celebration of love. Whether you chose to share a funny story about an experience the two of you shared or make a lighthearted joke, adding something silly can make your vows extra special. It is so important to be able to have fun and laugh together, and this is just one way to incorporate that sentiment into your ceremony.
List Things You Love About Your Partner
This can be a great start to writing some beautiful vows. Come up with a list of the top few things you love about your partner (this should be easy!) and go from there. You may spend a lot of time saying "I love you," but do you spend as much time saying why? It is always nice to hear something specific about why your partner loves you, and it shows that they are really paying attention! Sharing details about what makes you love your spouse will make them and your guests melt.
Be Mindful of Length
You don't need to write a whole essay! Wedding guests will start to lose focus if the vows are too long. Even if you chose to elope, you don't want to be standing up there forever! Practice with friends and family (not your spouse!) to get their feedback and ask and assess if they nodded off at any point. Your vows should be digestible. If they go on and on many people, including your spouse, may miss out on some of the things you say. Choose the most important things you want to get across.
Writing wedding vows can be tricky, but these tips and tricks can help you along with the brainstorming process. At the end of the day, the most important thing is that you are speaking from the heart. Whichever way you chose to honor your love should be up to you.
