It's common to assume that domestic violence equals physical assault.

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*Disclaimer: The following article may be triggering or hard to read for some. Please read with caution. Abuse can happen anywhere, to anyone, at any time—this includes online spaces. 

The National Domestic Violence Hotline 
1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) 

We may notice that there has been sexual deviancy or coercive control inside a marriage, we may observe verbal, emotional, psychological, financial abuse.

But quite often the only question asked is, has he ever hit you? Has there been violence? And if not, then we assume it's not considered domestic violence. It's not abuse. 

Assault is actually only a small part of the abusive system that makes up domestic violence. 

Domestic Violence Is: 

  • the SECOND leading cause of death among African American women, 
  • the THIRD leading cause of death among Native/Indigenous women, 
  • and the SEVENTH leading cause of death among Caucasian women.

Research Tells Us:

  • 1 in 3 women are sexually abused
  • 1 in 6 men are sexually abused
  • 82% of victims under 18 are female
  • 88% of child sexual abusers are male
  • Only 6 of every 1000 rapists spend even one day in jail
  • 93% of child sexual abusers are known and trusted by the child
  • 34% of child sexual abuse victims are under age 12, often starting by age 4
  • More than 70% of DV victims are female

*Sources: No Visible Bruises by Rachel Louise Snyder | Predators by Ana C. Salter |

Most people realize, if someone says “I love you” and then hits you… something isn’t okay. But Domestic Violence (DV) is much more than bruises. Non-physical DV is far more damaging than we typically realize. And often we don’t even recognize it.

Domestic Violence Includes 13 Types of Abuse:

  1. Child Abuse
  2. Culture Abuse
  3. Emotional Abuse
  4. Financial Abuse
  5. Intellectual Abuse
  6. Pets+Property Abuse
  7. Physical Abuse
  8. Psychological Abuse
  9. Sexual Abuse
  10. Social Abuse
  11. Spiritual Abuse
  12. Verbal Abuse

All 12 types center around one core mindset: The abuse of power.

Find out the Thirteenth Type of Abuse by reading the full article by Sarah McDugal on Wilderness to WILD.

Sarah McDugal is an author, speaker, trainer, abuse recovery coach, and the founder of Wilderness to WILD. She works exclusively with women wounded by toxic relationships in the faith community. An Alumnus of Southern Adventist University, she also received her Master's degree from Andrews University. Connect with Sarah on InstagramFacebook, and YouTube.


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