Groomsmen offer advice on supporting their main man on his big day.
So you've been chosen to stand up with your friend at the altar on his big day, now what? We asked veteran groomsmen their advice on how to be supportive and what to keep in mind in order to be the best groomsman in the history of matrimony:
1. Don’t get drunk!
It’s your friend’s big day! All of your friends are there! There’s excitement in the air and a touch of stress, especially if you are dreading giving a speech in front of everyone. Naturally, you’re ready to get the party started. If you want to be a good groomsman, do not have too many drinks before the time is right. Sure, by the end of the night you’ll be playing air guitar and showing off dance moves you haven't broken out in years, but before the reception be sure to stay on point. Nobody appreciates a boozehound groomsman. A glass of champagne or one cocktail pre ceremony should be acceptable.
2. Be useful.
You were selected as a groomsman because your friendship has withstood the test of time! Now is another moment you can be there for your friend. He’s got a lot on is mind, make sure you are ready to help when he needs a keg moved or needs someone to go pick up his wedding rings or vows because he forgot them at home. Bottom line, if someone tells him something needs to be done, step up and offer to help.
3. Understand the magnitude of the moment.
Your friend is getting married. This is the biggest day of his life. Don’t be immature and make jokes about "the game" being over or there being a car waiting nearby. Instead, tell him how happy you are for him that he found the love of his life and that you’re going to support him through the years and that you’re honored to be included in the wedding.
4. Practice tying your tie.
Without fail, every wedding has one or two groomsmen that can’t tie a tie. If you are wearing a bowtie, practice a lot! Chances are you’ll be tying your friend’s ties as well, which guarantees you hero status!
5. Bring extra socks, undershirts, deodorant, tie, and a pen.
This goes in line with the previous tip, bring this stuff! Someone will forget one of these items and you will save the day. The groom will never forget how you thought ahead and saved a part of his day.
6. Hug the groom.
It sounds silly, but don’t tough-guy-bro-out on the big day. Hug the man getting married. He’s nervous, excited, and getting lost in the whirlwind of the day. Give him a big ol' bear hug and a pat on the back!
7. Be a grown up.
Don’t make dumb jokes. Don’t be difficult. Pay attention. Don’t talk during speeches. It's the basics of being an adult. The wedding day is not about you so don’t make it that way.
8. Smile!
Sure, some things will go awry. You may have to stand in the sun on a hot day. You may not like wearing a pink tie. Just do it with a smile. The bride and groom put a lot of time and energy into the day, and they included you, so you should be happy!
9. Dance!
If you’re in the wedding party, you better be on the dance floor for the first song of open dancing! Nothing is more depressing than seeing wedding party members sitting at tables texting.
10. Dance more!
While you’re out on that dance floor having a great time, go grab somebody who’s sitting down and pull them out there! There’s always room on the dance floor for more!
Do you have any other advice for a groomsman? Share it with us in the comments below.
